LOVE AND SOUL MATES
'a network of links that makes one grow.'
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
The ancient Greeks used 4 words to describe love, and a single word was not enough to describe this vast concept:
“Eros”: physical and consummate love,
“Philia”: friendship and reciprocity,
“Agape”: is the love of one’s neighbor, ‘agape’, understood as the model of unconditional love that those who invoke or believe in it should strive to approach. It is also Divine and unconditional love.
“Storgê” is family love and tenderness.
The first recorded love at first sight was that of Pharaoh Ramses in 1245 BC. He had more than 12 wives and 200 concubines, but succumbed at first sight to the charms of a Hittite princess. Engravings found in a temple bear witness to this.
SOUL MATES and TWIN FLAMES
The partners are deeply connected and magnetized to each other.
Twin flames mirror each other.
Each will reflect the strengths and weaknesses of the other, helping him or her to repair consciously or unconsciously, then motivating and pushing him or her to self-fulfillment.
How would a soul mate or soul mates be defined?
The Larousse dictionary defines it as follows Soul mate, a person whose feelings, inclinations and aspirations bring them closer to another.
For Le Robert dictionary: L’âme sœur, a person with whom one has a great deal of sentimental affinity.
For the TLFi dictionary: Âme sœur. A person who has deep affinities of taste, feelings… with another person (especially a person of the opposite sex), who is made to get along, to live in harmony with them.
Soul mates can be lovers or friends, family members or otherwise, but in all cases there’s a sense of obviousness between them.
Some people even use the word “soul family”, because there’s such a strong impression of déjà vu, like people who have lived together in previous lives.
It’s a feeling of kindness, ease and harmony, and of being totally who you are in their presence.
It’s a feeling of freedom to be yourself and to have come home.
We would have several soul mates, and a soul mate doesn‘t have to stay in our lives forever.
There’s a magical, alchemical mental connection created between them, and they experience strange and funny synchronicities such as waking up in two different places at the same time to the minute, or texting each other at the same time, thinking the same thing or saying it simultaneously, picking up the phone when the other was dialing…
These ‘more than coincidences’ are seen as revealing signs, and ‘shake things up’ especially when it’s a first encounter with a soulmate.
There may be arguments, but these are quickly defused, and the bond grows stronger with every milestone and challenge achieved together.
How did the concept of soul mates come about?
This concept, which some call the myth of soul mates, was created by Plato and represents the meeting of 2 souls who would become one.
Plato wrote “The Banquet” around 380 B.C., and in a passage one of the characters, Aristophanes, explains his theory of soul mates.
He tells us that in the early days of mankind, human beings had very different physiques, with 4 legs, 4 arms, 2 sexes and a head with two faces, two halves glued back to back.
Some of these creatures had one male and one female sex, called androgynous, others had two female sexes and the third group was made up of creatures with 2 male sexes.
These different combinations were so beautiful, successful and perfect that these creatures felt above all else and were so in fusion, plenitude and completeness two by two that they ignored the others and above all forgot to pray and honor their Gods, including Zeus.
Zeus got angry and divided these beings, each of whom now had only one face, 2 arms and 2 legs, into two parts, condemning them to search for their other half for the rest of their lives.
The concept of the soul mate or twin flame in the West and East is similar, but in Asia, for example, soul mates are as closely linked as in the West, but without looking for their missing half in the other.
The Legend of the Red Thread in Japan
The Japanese believe that a red thread connects those who are destined for each other.
A Japanese legend, derived from a tale from the samurai era from 1185 to 1867, tells of lovers being linked by an invisible red thread, predestined by the gods, predestining them for each other.
The red thread, called ‘Ise no Taheiji’ in Japanese, links the two souls. When the lovers are far apart, the red thread lengthens and continues to link the two forever.
In this beautiful tradition, wearing this red thread as a bracelet around the left wrist would bring good luck to everyone, and enable single people to find each other more easily, as if by magic, and experience true love together.
If 2 people superimpose their red threads, they will immediately fall under each other’s spell.
This legend means that Fate, the Universe or the Invisible World, is working benevolently on our behalf, and that it will happen at the right time for us. In Japan, you can’t fight the red thread.
Ulysses and Penelope
Penelope is a character at the end of Homer’s Odyssey.
Penelope is the wife of Ulysses, king of the small Greek island of Ithaca, and together they have a son named Telemachus, who is still very young when his father goes to war.
Ulysses left for the Trojan War over a period of twenty years, although he used many tricks to escape it and stay with his family.
Under pressure, she said she would marry again, but only when she had finished weaving the shroud for her husband.
Yet she was certain in her heart that her husband was still alive and would return from the war.
She uses a clever stratagem to do her sewing and weaving at night, so she can start all over again in the morning.
One of her maids catches on to her ruse and reveals it to all Penelope’s eager suitors.
Her love for Odysseus, her loyalty to him, her intelligence and her faith in their love will have been the strongest. Ulysses returns to Ithaca and wins the most difficult challenges against all Penelope’s suitors.
Penelope imagines a test in which the suitors will have to try to bend Odysseus’ bow. She knows that only he can do it, and indeed only Odysseus, in disguise, with the help of his son Telemachus and the blessing of the gods, will succeed.
Penelope will have difficulty recognizing Ulysses, disguised as an old man, but he will tell her secrets known only to them.
And so they find themselves happily reunited, their love giving birth to a second son, Ptoligorthes, and the gods themselves bow to their love and happiness.
The languages of love
Gary Chapman, author and analytical genius, marriage counselor and American lecturer specializing in marriage and the family, explains in a highly educational way in his book ‘The 5 Love Languages’ that each of us manifests our love in several possible ways, of which there are 5. The first language is that of compliments made, the second is that of pleasant time spent together, the third is that of gifts, the fourth is that of services rendered to the other and the fifth is touch such as hugging…
Soul mates learn or know each other’s love language, so they can more easily understand each other’s inner workings and essentials, so they can share better.
I love you because the whole Universe has conspired to bring me to you’ Paulo Coelho